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Erdinç Yusuf KILBOZ's avatar

Although it conflicts with the idea of "men's friendships are easier to implement", the podcast I listened to last week can expand on the topic for those who enjoyed reading your article.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001n1qc

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Gulsun Uluer's avatar

It's quite meaningful, and, who knows, maybe even message-giving, that you come across a podcast and an article at the same time and on almost the same topic. Your suggestion is perfect for a podcast enthusiast like me. I'll share my thoughts after listening, I hope very soon.

It may be a prejudice or an argument that hasn't been thought about enough that friendships between men are easier. But I think it's a mindset that most women have. However, if it's not the truth, I'm very open to changing it.

Thank you very much :)

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Erdinç Yusuf KILBOZ's avatar

So meaningful, that's why you need to keep on writing and we have to keep on reading :)

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Gulsun Uluer's avatar

Thank you :)

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Jillian Hess's avatar

Such a great word! And great book recommendations by the way:)

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Gulsun Uluer's avatar

Thank you!

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Anju & Preethi's avatar

Allow me add the nuances of generation and culture to this topic.

I am a millennial who is also lucky enough to have meaningful friendships over the decades. But the Baby Boomers in my country(India) are family-oriented folks. They look down upon their millennial children who spare a few minutes for their friends. Maintaining friendships (esp., female-female) is tough on millennials with this constant criticism from parents. Adding an extra feather of career equality on millennial women's hats; makes it a thrilling act of juggling.

Having said that, female-female relationships, what I would prefer to call soul-sisters; are a wholesome experience. Ranging from tumultuous arguments during teenage to having a shoulder to lean on for all the emotional needs of a middle-aged woman; they sure are the reason for one's sanity.

Cheers to beautiful words and more meaningful relationships :)

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Gulsun Uluer's avatar

I completely understand the mindset that regards time spent with friends as unnecessary and, at times, "inconvenient" in traditional families, and I can even picture the scenes that occurred. But that doesn't diminish our need for friendships. Every relationship, whether family, spouse, partner, or friend, has a place. When I look at my own life, none of them can take the place of the others.

I refuse to imagine a life without friends, particularly the female ones.

Cheers:)

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